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You’re Not Broken, You’re Healing

There’s a phrase I hear almost daily in the clinic:

“I feel broken.”


Sometimes it’s whispered through tears after childbirth. Sometimes it’s said with frustration after years of pain, leaking, pressure, or discomfort that no one has fully explained. Sometimes it comes from women who have been told their symptoms are “normal,” even though deep down they know something feels off.


Woman sitting quietly by a bright window, reflecting on the emotional and physical challenges of pelvic floor symptoms, recovery, and healing.

If you’ve ever felt this way, I want you to hear this clearly: You are not broken.


Your body is healing, adapting, protecting, and asking for support.

That is very different.


The Problem With Calling Yourself “Broken”

When we believe our bodies are broken, we often stop trusting them.


We become afraid to move.

Afraid to exercise.

Afraid to lift our children.

Afraid that pain means damage.

Afraid that things will never improve.


But the body is not a machine that simply “fails.”

It is a living, intelligent system constantly trying to protect and repair itself.


Symptoms are often messages — not evidence that your body has betrayed you.


Pain, tension, leaking, pelvic heaviness, core weakness, or discomfort can happen for many reasons:

  • Pregnancy and childbirth

  • Stress and nervous system overload

  • Muscle guarding and compensation

  • Hormonal changes

  • Surgery or injury

  • Chronic habits and posture patterns

  • Years of pushing through discomfort without support


These experiences can leave the body feeling overwhelmed, disconnected, or under-supported. But none of them mean you are permanently damaged.


Healing Is Not Always Linear

One of the hardest parts of recovery is that healing rarely happens in a straight line.


Thoughtful person standing outdoors with a hand on their head, representing the emotional challenges of living with chronic pain, pelvic floor symptoms, and the healing journey.

You may have:

  • Good days followed by setbacks

  • Symptoms that improve slowly

  • Progress that feels invisible at first

  • Moments where your body feels unfamiliar

This does not mean you are failing.


Healing often looks like:

  • Feeling safer in your body

  • Rebuilding trust in movement

  • Learning how to breathe again

  • Strengthening gradually instead of forcing

  • Calming an overprotective nervous system

  • Giving yourself permission to recover

Small changes matter more than perfection.


Your Pelvic Floor Is Part of a Bigger Story

At Auria Pelvic Health, we don’t just look at symptoms in isolation.


The pelvic floor is deeply connected to:

  • Breathing

  • Core coordination

  • Stress levels

  • Hip and spinal movement

  • Sleep

  • Hormones

  • Emotional wellbeing

  • Daily habits and load

That’s why true healing is rarely about “just doing Kegels.”


Sometimes the pelvic floor needs strengthening.

Sometimes it needs relaxation.

Sometimes it needs coordination, support, rest, or nervous system regulation.


Every body is different. Your care should be too.


You Deserve Support — Not Shame

Too many people silently live with:

Person holding another person's hand outdoors, symbolizing support, healing, compassion, and the journey of recovery from pelvic floor symptoms.

  • Urine leakage

  • Pain with intimacy

  • Pelvic pressure

  • Postpartum discomfort

  • Tailbone pain

  • Chronic tension

  • Abdominal separation

  • Constipation

  • Low back or hip pain

And many assume they simply have to “live with it.” You do not.


Seeking help is not weakness. It’s wisdom.


Physical therapy is not about “fixing” a broken person.


It’s about helping your body regain support, function, confidence, and connection.


What Healing Can Look Like

Healing may not mean your body returns to exactly who it was before.

But it can mean:

  • Feeling strong again

  • Moving without fear

  • Exercising confidently

  • Laughing without leaking

  • Having pain-free intimacy

  • Trusting your core again

  • Feeling at home in your body

And perhaps most importantly:

  • Speaking to yourself with more compassion along the way



Your body has carried you through stress, change, pain, growth, and survival.


It may be tired.

It may be overwhelmed.

It may need guidance and support.


But it is not broken.


Healing takes time, patience, and the right support system — and you do not have to navigate it alone.

At Auria Pelvic Health, our goal is to help you feel informed, empowered, and connected to your body again — one step at a time.




Auria Pelvic Health

8929 S Sepulveda Blvd., Ste. 412

Los Angeles, CA 90045

Phone: 310-505-6096

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Article Written By Dr. Sasha Speer, DPT



 
 
 

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